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I’m Sammi. My many hats include: actor, bartender, yoga instructor, New Yorker, writer, feminist, obsessive dog enthusiast. Bars I’ve worked at include The Roof, The Standard Hotel and most recently, Bathtub Gin.
The idea for this blog was spawned by a conversation I had with a friend a while back. She said she wished she could go to a bar by herself and just read a book. She didn’t feel comfortable sitting at a bar alone. She feared too many men would try to pick her up and expressed that women don’t have as much freedom as men to spend quality time with themselves, for fear of being judged, especially in such a social environment. I agreed with all her qualms – women SHOULD feel more comfortable being by themselves. Often men don’t get that when a woman is by herself, maybe she just wants to be by herself. It’s only been since I started bartending that I really enjoyed going to bars alone. I would shoot the shit with the bartender, check my email or read a book, even just sit and clear my head while simultaneously clouding it with liquor. And I realized that more women should feel like this, more women should feel free to go to a bar alone and not be weighed down by worries or fears. Maybe they just don’t know where to go.
Thus, A Girl’s Guide to Drinking Alone was born. It’s a combination of my love for cocktailing, writing and feminism.
So go get em girl. This one’s for you.
A couple of caveats about my journey in unaccompanied imbibing:
I’m a bartender, so I have a deep love for the craft and the products. That being said, I pretty much only drink gin, whiskey or wine. I’ll have the occasional rum or tequila cocktail, and I can drink half a beer before all the bubbles drive me a little insane. I hate vodka. Sorry vodka-soda-lovers, we’ll have to find something else to agree on.
I typically go to these bars at off-peak hours; bars on weekends are generally way too crowded for me. My favorite bar is an empty one, which I understand is not the case for most people. I in no way mean to judge those who love to go out with huge groups of friends, or the women who go to bars solo in order to get picked up – rock on ladies! But for the purposes of this project, I am writing reviews for the women who want to go to a bar alone, with the intention of leaving alone as well.
I went to each of these places only once, so the reviews are colored by my singular experience, unless noted otherwise. I simply don’t have the time or money to get a holistic view of each bar: the first impression’s gonna have to do. Ironically, I can’t drink a lot, so I have one, maybe two, drinks at each place, so I spend about an hour at every bar.
Enjoy! Let me know what you think, and certainly, if you go alone to one of these places, tell me how it goes! I hope to flood this city with unafraid and unashamed solo lady drinkers. Cheers!
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